Were Jewish individuals “needy” in their request for the right to live, and freely worship? Were the African Americans “needy” for striving for the same privileges, same schooling, and same opportunities as the Caucasian individual in the same society? These are questions one should ask HIMSELF before making an irrational claim that “ALL women are NEEDY”.
To be needy is to strive for affection, attention, and reassurance, to an excessive degree. Isn’t it with accordance to the nature of human being’s to strive for these conditions? It doesn’t matter what race, religion, gender one is to a degree we are all needy, or in other words have specific needs for full satisfaction. To be affectionate is to love. Love comes in different shapes and forms. To be loved signifies recognition of an individual’s soul. This recognition is important for any being in the sense that someone else not only acknowledges the purpose of one’s existence but also supports it. This ties into play with the strive for attention and reassurance. To show affection is to be attentive. To be attentive is to reassure an individual their entitlement to individuality, free will, and ability to live life in accordance to an individual’s passion. Passion is identified through individual’s hobbies, occupations, and activities, emotionally and physically speaking. Personally, I believe that the hobbies and activities one performs should be valued. They are a form of expressing one’s purpose. Without this form of self-expression how do we fulfill our purpose, our soul? One needs attention to feel loved and reassured, reassured of their purpose. When none of the three key conditions (affection, attention, reassurance) are met, is an individual’s purpose lost? No, it just has yet to be discovered or unleashed from the shackles of societies expectations. To appear “needy” is another beings cry for help in a sense that most of the time, their conditions have been infringed on; they live in deprivation of the three conditions, conditions in which every being needs in order to feel self-fulfilled. As exemplified, all humans are needy; it is a human condition in which one cannot avoid.
To respond to the irrational claim from a former English student, that women are needy, technically yes we are, yet so is the entire human existence. To what conditions have women been displayed as more needy than the male population? Well let’s take a look at the history of MANkind. Since the very beginning of the human race, male figures have been physically dominant. Have we throughout time thought that physical strength determines power? Of course we have. This philosophy is exemplified through war tactics. One wants the stronger men, the more destructive weapons in order to rightfully claim their power. Because males in most scenarios are physically stronger than women, has history suggested because of their physical strength they are emotionally stronger too? Yes, in fact this is still exemplified in today’s society. Many speculate or believe that women are too emotionally instable and lack the power to lead a country in times of war. Has this been proven? It has been instilled since the beginning of the history of mankind that women are to express their emotion; it is okay to cry, whereas men have been raised to be unemotional, yet violent. Does this mean that because women have been taught to express their emotions freely that we appear to be less powerful? Or have less of an ability to have a job, and make decisions. Throughout society it has been exemplified and stressed how to be the perfect wife, and how important it is to tend to the men’s emotional and physical needs. Has it not been the women who have not asked of much in return except for the same human rights as our significant others? I believe that history has proven the male as being more “needy” if we were really to go as far to evaluate which is the more “needy” gender. Women have sacrificed themselves for centuries to care for children, and the sexual demands of the male (not saying every male in today’s society is sexually demanding). Is it not the woman that sacrifices her name to inherit the males in marriage? Is it not the woman that sacrifices her hobbies, or job in order to tend to the children? Has it not been the woman who has cleaned the ground that the male stomps upon? For centuries females have sacrificed their right to express to be “socially pleasing”. How dare we be accused of being needier than men? Have you no respect for the women to bear your child for nine months while the male can flaunt around without being frowned upon Males have been exemplified, or displayed as the gender in which independence, and self-fulfillment flourishes. As one of Virginia Wolf’s philosophies, men are intrigued by women but not beyond the point of the extremes of their beauty and intelligence, or in other terms the typical trophy wife all men strived to have. In America, 86% of plastic surgeries performed were performed on women. This statistic alone reveals the self-consciousness and desire to have the perfect body to satisfy men’s needs. This exemplifies a woman’s lack of confidence because her virtues don’t meet the standards of men. Therefore, have women not been trained throughout the history of mankind that if you cannot satisfy those expectations of males than you have no purpose? Society has made women’s purpose to be that of a walking reproduction machine, one in which should be physically appealing and willing to satisfy a male’s sexual desires. Throughout the centuries, the skirts have gotten shorter, the shirts lower, the fitting tighter, the layers less. We are practically naked, what more can we do before totally striped of our “neediness” status? How long before we are respected as equals emotionally, and are looked at as the ones needed, not “needy”.
